Valentine’s Day is here again!
Traditionally, this is a day dedicated to celebrating healthy romantic relationships and the joy of love. In honor of this, I am sending out an extra long Valentine’s Day edition of my newsletter discussing the bedroom-libido connection. I hope these ideas help to bring heightened intimacy and romance into your lives.
- Dr. Hoppe
What message is your bedroom sending?
Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication?
Is it conducive to rest and relaxation? Interestingly, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions, and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!
In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy. Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual (more…)
Good advice never goes out of style. Back by popular demand, here is a repost of last year’s “5 New Year’s Resolutions That Will Up Your Libido!” Wishing you all a healthy sex drive and a healthy you in 2011!
New Year’s Eve typically is a time to reflect on our past and to take steps to improve our lives in the following year. Heading into this next year, why not put yourself back on a road leading to a more satisfying sex life? 2011 can be the year that you put the fun back into living – and into your relationship.
Here are my top 5 recommendations for you to achieve a healthy libido in the coming year: (more…)
Watch this clip from Fox 10′s “Arizona Morning” TV show – my suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions that you can put into place to increase your libido!
Has your sex life taken a dive even though you are still interested in your partner? You are not alone. According to the recent 2009 Sex, Romance, and Relationships Survey released by the AARP in May 2010, people’s sex drives have been dropping at an alarming rate(1). The study, which included a random sample of 1,670 American men and women aged 45 and older, reveals some intriguing findings. Between 2004 and 2009, the percentage of people in the 50s who say they have sex once a week dove nearly 10 points for both sexes (women dropped from 43 to 32% and men from 49 to 41%). Other age groups also show similar decreases.
One alarming statistic of this survey shows how sex has definitely “cooled down” for many menopausal women. Approximately 1 in 5 women in their 50s say they’d be quite happy to never have sex again. About 1 in 50 men in their 50s agree.
Every day in my gynecological practice, I see perimenopausal and menopausal women concerned about their lost desire, or the “urge to merge” as I like to call it.
Let me share 5 ways that you can re-ignite those flames of desire: (more…)
Watching porn before, during, or after sex is becoming more and more common. If porn is being used in a way to increase the connection between you and your partner, such as for foreplay or arousal, then this can be beneficial for your sexual relationship. Some of my patients, however, have shared with me that the use of porn seems to be potentially destructive to their relationships. In general, if your partner is focused on the porn (more…)
The ancient Roman physician Galen said that foods worked as aphrodisiacs if they were “windy”, meaning they produced flatulence! Galen theorized that a “wind” inflated the penis, causing an erection, so any food that made one gassy could give a man an erection. Read more about aphrodisiacs in history in my book, Healthy Sex Life, Healthy You; What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life.
*Dr. Hoppe’s special gift baskets are now available for purchase – just in time for a romantic and unforgettable Valentine’s Day! Each basket contains an autographed copy of Dr. Hoppe’s acclaimed book Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You as well as specialty items like sensual lavender bath gel, spicy pumpkin-scented candles, and savory wine…enhance the romance between you and your partner with one of Dr. Hoppe’s Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You gift baskets!
