Approximately 43% of American women have some form of "sexual dysfunction," the majority suffering from decreased sexual desire.
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By improving your intimate relationship, you can decrease your risk for heart disease. Recent studies have shown a connection between marriages marked by negativity, such as conflict and adverse exchanges, and an increase in the risk of heart disease (by 34 percent), even after factoring in other contributors to heart disease.
Suggestion #7: Offer positive encouragement.
When your partner feels valued for sharing his feelings and allowing you to express yours, he will be more willing to continue openly communicating. Both of you can make positive statements about how much better it feels to be open and honest. If he brings up a different subject, rather than bristling, say, “I’m glad you feel comfortable enough to talk to me about this. Let’s see if we can make it work for the two of us.”
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Men and women don’t think alike. Communication between the sexes, therefore, does not come naturally, since men and women frequently have different styles of communicating. To stay connected, to stay in love, and to create an ongoing desire to stay in a harmonious and intimate relationship, couples need to exercise patience and persistence. They have to create circumstances – the environment and the language – that will facilitate open communication. In short, couples have to work hard at communicating effectively.
Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a number of suggestions to help you and your partner learn how to better listen to each other, acknowledge what is said, and openly discuss the issues in your relationship. I hope you will find these suggestions helpful.
- Dr. Hoppe
How to revive communication with your partner
Suggestion #4: Focus on only one point at a time
As we know, women are much more adept at multitasking then are men. It is imperative, therefore, to stick to the topic at hand and stay focused on one point at a time to keep your partner with you during your talk. Reciting a laundry list of concerns will soon cause your partner to tune you out. Make it clear from the beginning what your goal is.
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Men and women don’t think alike. Communication between the sexes, therefore, does not come naturally, since men and women frequently have different styles of communicating. To stay connected, to stay in love, and to create an ongoing desire to stay in a harmonious and intimate relationship, couples need to exercise patience and persistence. They have to create circumstances – the environment and the language – that will facilitate open communication. In short, couples have to work hard at communicating effectively.
Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a number of suggestions to help you and your partner learn how to better listen to each other, acknowledge what is said, and openly discuss the issues in your relationship. I hope you will find these suggestions helpful.
- Dr. Hoppe
How to revive communication with your partner
Suggestion #2: Keep growing your communication skills
Read books and articles about communication. Enlist a good (more…)
Men and women don’t think alike. Communication between the sexes, therefore, does not come naturally, since men and women frequently have different styles of communicating. To stay connected, to stay in love, and to create an ongoing desire to stay in a harmonious and intimate relationship, couples need to exercise patience and persistence. They have to create circumstances – the environment and the language – that will facilitate open communication. In short, couples have to work hard at communicating effectively.
Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a number of suggestions to help you and your partner learn how to better listen to each other, acknowledge (more…)
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Subject: A Little Help Please
Hello,
I am asking for a little help in boosting my libido, and helping my wife get in the mood through fragrances in the bedroom. Any advice or ideas would be appreciated. Thank you.
W
Hello W -
Thank you for your email. I’m glad you wrote as I do have some suggestions that I think will help you and your wife…
Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge women’s sexual response to certain scents. By measuring the blood flow to the vagina, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal. You might be surprised at what they found! Among those scents found to increase (more…)
Good advice never goes out of style. Back by popular demand, here is a repost of last year’s “5 New Year’s Resolutions That Will Up Your Libido!” Wishing you all a healthy sex drive and a healthy you in 2011!
New Year’s Eve typically is a time to reflect on our past and to take steps to improve our lives in the following year. Heading into this next year, why not put yourself back on a road leading to a more satisfying sex life? 2011 can be the year that you put the fun back into living – and into your relationship.
Here are my top 5 recommendations for you to achieve a healthy libido in the coming year: (more…)
Watch this clip from Fox 10′s “Arizona Morning” TV show – my suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions that you can put into place to increase your libido!
As Thanksgiving nears and we are reminded of the people in our lives who we are grateful for, take a moment to let your partner know what he or she means to you. This type of communication will improve your relationship in general, as well as spill over into the bedroom.
During times of (more…)
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Has your sex life taken a dive even though you are still interested in your partner? You are not alone. According to the recent 2009 Sex, Romance, and Relationships Survey released by the AARP in May 2010, people’s sex drives have been dropping at an alarming rate(1). The study, which included a random sample of 1,670 American men and women aged 45 and older, reveals some intriguing findings. Between 2004 and 2009, the percentage of people in the 50s who say they have sex once a week dove nearly 10 points for both sexes (women dropped from 43 to 32% and men from 49 to 41%). Other age groups also show similar decreases.
One alarming statistic of this survey shows how sex has definitely “cooled down” for many menopausal women. Approximately 1 in 5 women in their 50s say they’d be quite happy to never have sex again. About 1 in 50 men in their 50s agree.
Every day in my gynecological practice, I see perimenopausal and menopausal women concerned about their lost desire, or the “urge to merge” as I like to call it.
Let me share 5 ways that you can re-ignite those flames of desire: (more…)
