Valentine’s Day is here again!
Traditionally, this is a day dedicated to celebrating healthy romantic relationships and the joy of love. In honor of this, I am sending out an extra long Valentine’s Day edition of my newsletter discussing the bedroom-libido connection. I hope these ideas help to bring heightened intimacy and romance into your lives.
- Dr. Hoppe
What message is your bedroom sending?
Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication?
Is it conducive to rest and relaxation? Interestingly, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions, and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!
In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy. Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual (more…)
I am asking for a little help in boosting my libido, and helping my wife get in the mood through fragrances in the bedroom. Any advice or ideas would be appreciated. Thank you.
W
Hello W -
Thank you for your email. I’m glad you wrote as I do have some suggestions that I think will help you and your wife…
Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge women’s sexual response to certain scents. By measuring the blood flow to the vagina, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal. You might be surprised at what they found! Among those scents found to increase (more…)
Watch this clip from Fox 10′s “Arizona Morning” TV show – my suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions that you can put into place to increase your libido!
Sometimes, you or your partner may need to fantasize about someone else to become aroused and stimulated. More than four out of 10 Americans enjoy sexual fantasies and erotica to boost their libidos. As with most things in life, moderation is key. If you are fantasizing about someone else every time you are with your partner in an intimate way, then there is a problem. What needs to be explored is why you aren’t fantasizing about your partner. Does your partner still stimulate you? Are you still attracted to him? His body? His scent? By not discussing these issues together, you are being dishonest with yourself and your partner regarding the true state of your relationship.
Having more sex can improve certain brain functions, including memory, and can also improve your sense of smell. With any form of exercise – and let’s face it, sex is a form of exercise – blood flow increases. The increased (more…)
To get turned on, you need to turn off your brain. Give it a well-deserved break. Allow it to do just one thing at a time, not 20 things. Focus on the scene and your partner. Mindfulness meditation is a very useful way to train your brain to do this. Using this method, thoughts can enter your mind but go right through without without needing to be fixated on. Have your mind focus on something peaceful or loving while you are caressing your partner. Keep bringing your thoughts back to what is happening to you physically – how you like his touch, his cologne, what is turning you on at that moment. This may take some practice, but is definitely achievable!
Brrrr…it’s cold outside! But things can still stay steaming hot between you and your partner! Here are some ideas that the two of you can try when you want to spend some fun bonding time together while keeping to your budget…
Game night! A game of Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, Guitar Hero, charades, or Twister with some snacks and music can make for a night of laughs and great memories.
Take a walk with each other in the park or, if there’s snow, put your mittens on and get the sled out! Being outdoors together is invigorating and fun.
Turn your bathroom into a romantic, calming spa. Sensual lavender (more…)
Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge men’s sexual response to certain scents. By measuring the blood flow to the penis, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal. Among those scents found to increase penile blood flow were: (more…)
Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge women’s sexual response to certain scents. By measuring the blood flow to the vagina, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal. Among those scents found to increase vaginal blood flow the most were: (more…)
Have you ever been cooking in the kitchen only to have your partner come up behind you and give you a sexy pinch in the behind? I’m sure you probably looked adorable as you stirred the cake mix, but it also might have had something to do with the aroma of the food you were cooking!
Recent studies conducted at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have shown that the smells of certain foods can be sexually arousing. Foods aren’t the only sexual stimulants that can create a romantic mood. Many patients have asked me about the legitimacy of other aphrodisiacs, such as (more…)
