Posts Tagged ‘libido’
Thursday, August 4th, 2011
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Having a physician whom you trust and with whom you can freely communicate is key in maintaining optimum health and a strong libido. If you feel embarrassed, rushed, judged, or criticized during your visit, you probably should find a new doctor who has the needed time and compassion to best address your issues. Over the years, I have had many questions asked of me, many of which came from patients who stated they felt too embarrassed to bring them up with other doctors. Here are five ways to best communicate with your doctor during your visit. (more…)
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Monday, July 18th, 2011
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By improving your intimate relationship, you can decrease your risk for heart disease. Recent studies have shown a connection between marriages marked by negativity, such as conflict and adverse exchanges, and an increase in the risk of heart disease (by 34 percent), even after factoring in other contributors to heart disease.
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Friday, July 1st, 2011
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Suggestion #8: Be aware of nonverbal cues.
Your body language and tone of voice can have a significant impact on whether or not your partner will listen to you. If you sit with your arms crossed while you’re saying how sorry you are about hurting him, he will “listen” to your constricted, tight body language rather than to your actual apology. This also works in reverse. Women are very gifted at picking up subtle nonverbal cues, which can lead to far more damage than the actual words used.
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Friday, June 10th, 2011
Suggestion #7: Offer positive encouragement.
When your partner feels valued for sharing his feelings and allowing you to express yours, he will be more willing to continue openly communicating. Both of you can make positive statements about how much better it feels to be open and honest. If he brings up a different subject, rather than bristling, say, “I’m glad you feel comfortable enough to talk to me about this. Let’s see if we can make it work for the two of us.”
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Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
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Suggestion #6: Avoid accusations and use “I” statements.
Blaming your partner only causes more separation and defensiveness. Communicate using “I” messages rather than “you” messages. For example, rather than saying “You never pay attention to me,” you could say, “I feel upset because I need/want more attention from you.” This allows your partner to better understand how you feel and not become immediately defensive about an accusation.
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Sunday, May 8th, 2011
Suggestion #5: Keep your point short and simple
Too much detail and too many extra words will cause him to lose track of the point. Do not keep repeating the same point. And do not dredge up past issues that have nothing to do with the current subject matter. This will also cause him to stop listening and processing. Make your point once, then stop talking and let him respond.
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Saturday, April 16th, 2011
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Men and women don’t think alike. Communication between the sexes, therefore, does not come naturally, since men and women frequently have different styles of communicating. To stay connected, to stay in love, and to create an ongoing desire to stay in a harmonious and intimate relationship, couples need to exercise patience and persistence. They have to create circumstances – the environment and the language – that will facilitate open communication. In short, couples have to work hard at communicating effectively.
Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a number of suggestions to help you and your partner learn how to better listen to each other, acknowledge what is said, and openly discuss the issues in your relationship. I hope you will find these suggestions helpful.
- Dr. Hoppe
How to revive communication with your partner
Suggestion #4: Focus on only one point at a time
As we know, women are much more adept at multitasking then are men. It is imperative, therefore, to stick to the topic at hand and stay focused on one point at a time to keep your partner with you during your talk. Reciting a laundry list of concerns will soon cause your partner to tune you out. Make it clear from the beginning what your goal is.
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Tuesday, March 29th, 2011
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Men and women don’t think alike. Communication between the sexes, therefore, does not come naturally, since men and women frequently have different styles of communicating. To stay connected, to stay in love, and to create an ongoing desire to stay in a harmonious and intimate relationship, couples need to exercise patience and persistence. They have to create circumstances – the environment and the language – that will facilitate open communication. In short, couples have to work hard at communicating effectively.
Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a number of suggestions to help you and your partner learn how to better listen to each other, acknowledge what is said, and openly discuss the issues in your relationship. I hope you will find these suggestions helpful.
- Dr. Hoppe
How to revive communication with your partner
Suggestion #3: Be an active listener
While the physical act of hearing – sound waves passing into the auditory canal – may be occurring, the more refined process of listening is a matter of the heart. Active listening means that one person speaks at a time, without interruption, criticism, or judgment. The the listener acknowledges what the speaker has verbalized, paraphrasing what has been stated. This allows both parties to check that the meaning was communicated and to confirm understanding.
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Friday, March 4th, 2011
Men and women don’t think alike. Communication between the sexes, therefore, does not come naturally, since men and women frequently have different styles of communicating. To stay connected, to stay in love, and to create an ongoing desire to stay in a harmonious and intimate relationship, couples need to exercise patience and persistence. They have to create circumstances – the environment and the language – that will facilitate open communication. In short, couples have to work hard at communicating effectively.
Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a number of suggestions to help you and your partner learn how to better listen to each other, acknowledge (more…)
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Saturday, February 12th, 2011
Valentine’s Day is here again!
Traditionally, this is a day dedicated to celebrating healthy romantic relationships and the joy of love. In honor of this, I am sending out an extra long Valentine’s Day edition of my newsletter discussing the bedroom-libido connection. I hope these ideas help to bring heightened intimacy and romance into your lives.
- Dr. Hoppe
What message is your bedroom sending?
Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication? 
Is it conducive to rest and relaxation? Interestingly, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions, and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!
In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy. Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual (more…)
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